Parenting: What To Do When You Don’t Know What to Do

We’ve All Been There At some point, it seems like every mom of a teen girl witnesses the heartache, trauma, or failures in her daughter’s life and says, “I miss when she was little, and band-aids fixed the problems.” Sound familiar? During my daughter’s high school years, there have been many seasons when her life […]

God Is With You in the Small Things

Everything happens for a reason. I am blessed to have had an excellent high school experience, but that does not mean I did not go through many hard times. My years in high school taught me so much, and my faith grew in ways I could not imagine. Looking back, one of the most important […]

Don’t Be a Mean Girl

In almost every girl’s life, they have either been a mean girl or encountered a mean girl. I know that I have! Many times, I just fell into a particular group of friends that just happened to be mean girls. Honestly, it felt like in Middle School, High School, and College, that’s just how some […]

Here’s Why Approval Can’t Be Your Ultimate Goal

Step 1: Ask yourself, did I actually do anything disrespectful to this person who does not seem to like me? If you feel like the answer is YES, Maybe it is time to chat with that person about the situation and hopefully resolve it. Apologize when necessary and be careful not to hold on to […]

Do You Have to Be Liked By Everyone?

I am sure some of you can relate, but I have always been a people-pleaser. I grew up in a home where there were many conflicts and I JUST HATED CONFLICT, so I would do whatever it would take to not ruffle any feathers. I literally became a chameleon. I would turn into whoever everyone […]

3 Tips for Creating Emotional Boundaries

I am not sure if you have ever struggled with this, but I am the type of person that has no filter! I just say exactly what is on my heart, which can be a good thing sometimes, but other times, can make me feel exposed and vulnerable. This is especially true when I have […]

Parenting in Times of Uncertainty

Model a flexible mindset & lead with empathy  Life isn’t always perfect, and in this season it feels like unexpected changes are happening all the time. Teach your teen about how they can manage their expectations during this season.  We all experience uncomfortable emotions  This one goes out to all my pre-teens who are figuring […]

I Wanted to Be Beautiful but Didn’t Believe I Was

I was born in Virginia, near Washington DC. I grew up with a mom and dad and a younger sister. My parents are immigrants; they’re from Nigeria. It was wonderful and interesting growing up in a multicultural household; I had a great upbringing. I was raised in a supportive family who told me I could […]

2 Ways to Deal With Comparison

Comparison can come in so many different forms, and I’ve found myself identifying all the random ones throughout my life. Generally, when we think of “comparison,” we think of comparing successes or body types. However, it is a little different for me. I would always worry about how people saw me versus how people would […]

Expecting the Unexpected: How My Faith Was Tested in College

Going into the Fall of 2016, I thought I had everything planned for college. I came into college with my major already set, my new CU Nike gear as a D1 athlete, and my three Bibles. I took the right classes in high school and listened to my teachers. I went to church on Sundays […]