I Wanted to Be Beautiful but Didn’t Believe I Was

I was born in Virginia, near Washington DC. I grew up with a mom and dad and a younger sister. My parents are immigrants; they’re from Nigeria. It was wonderful and interesting growing up in a multicultural household; I had a great upbringing. I was raised in a supportive family who told me I could […]

Designer Clothes, or Designed Love?

When you look at yourself in the mirror, what do you see? What voices, words, labels, do you carry in your little “Mary Poppins” bag? Are you hearing the truth of who this magnificent creator of ours made you to be, or is the climate at your school, your friends, the boys, creating the toxic tornado that takes your breath away and steals who you are?

Through the eyes of a Body (In)Secure

  For about 13 years, I fought a battle so ingrained in my skin that breaking the mold has ended up being the baseball bat shattering the very center of me. The thing with this 13-year battle is that it wasn’t defined until about 5 years ago. I didn’t realize the force of destruction that […]

The “Perfect Body” Will Never Make You Happy

Obtaining the “perfect body” will never make you happy. I can say this because I used to believe it would. I really wanted it to make me happy and I fought for it with everything I had. I portioned my food and I lived in the gym. The scale became my friend and my enemy […]

Learning to Let Go: The Story of Embracing ALL of Who We Are

I remember the first day I looked at myself differently. My hair a disheveled mess, my glasses a bit too big for my face staring back at me in a smudged bathroom mirror. I knew this was as good as it was going to get. This was the face God had given me and for […]

Women, Eating Disorders and Substance Abuse

Some women strive to achieve what they perceive to be the perfect body. They obsess over what they eat, how much they weigh and how often they exercise. However, this desire to drastically lose weight and eat less could result in an eating disorder. It is not easy to come to grips with an eating […]

Your Legs Are So Toned! Are You A Dancer?

I noticed her immediately when she walked into the gas station. I was in line to buy a bottle of water before dance class when she came through the doors and headed straight for the display of donuts. I was startled when I realized that from the moment she arrived, I had dove head first […]

Insecurity: Doesn’t that word just haunt us?

Doesn’t that word just haunt us? It’s the view of yourself that you would never even think to relay to anyone. Something sometimes so deep down that you don’t wish to bring to the surface and talk about, yet so easily tell yourself over and over. The things that often flow through your mind as […]